November 10th, 2007

I just stumbled back from the comments section over at OMSH and
thought “Dang!” because I do actually think in exclamation marks.

I shared something relevant in the comments section,but the
Dang! was because I should have used my thoughts as an entry.

The entry was about her heartache over catching a church member
cheating on his wife, with his wife’s so-called best friend.

I have been reading tea leaves, palms, tarot cards, entrails, etc.,
for more than 24 years.

I can count on the fingers of ONE HAND how many women straight up
wanted to know if hubby was cheating.

Why?
I’m glad you asked. I have certainly asked myself.
Oh, wait. It’s because they don’t want to know.

If the one who has vowed to forsake all others isn’t through with
all the forsaking, then action must be taken.
When children are involved in the scenario, said action becomes
frightening. Who wants to risk the emotional and financial
security of their children?

If cheating spouse is confronted, he will either deny or confess.
With a confession, there is either a change of behaviour or not.
Personally, I think it is genetically encoded to deny, deny, deny.
But that’s me. I’ve seen their work.
I’m not bitter. A little bitter, okay? Back off.

If the cheating behaviour changes, there is a long,
sob-filled period before trust is built up.

If there is no change in the behaviour, there are two choices:
1. break up your formerly happy family unit.
2. pretend it isn’t still happening.

See why they don’t want to know?

Now for those that DO want to know:

They have their reasons.

Usually, they are gathering justifications or evidence for an
impending divorce.
Sometimes (And I swear this actually happened), they want to know
when he is going to die, so they don’t lose all kinds of financial
ways in the divorce.

I actually advised one woman to hang on a bit, that a widow gets
it all, where in a divorce, the lawyers get it all.
Quote from witchypoo: “The only way you can lose here is if you
kill him your own self.” (or have him killed)

Plotting carefully the demise of one’s husband reminds me of my
dear friend, Skinny Bitch. She is a delight.

You may hear about her soon.

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4 Responses to “What they don’t want to know, part one”

Anon for this comment Says:

The women really didn’t want to know? I had reason to spend time at survivinginfidelity.com this summer, and there were many women on the forums trying to learn ways to find out if their husbands were cheating, or if they already knew he was, to find out the extent of it. I know that I wanted to know everything.

zoe Says:

there. i fixed my spelling. my husband works at the prison and i “joke” all the time that if he dies any where but there i am sticking a shank in him and throwing his ass over the fence…i get at least a million if he dies there..which is much better than the 1 1/2 times his annual meager salary. i don’t know if i would want to know or not. right now i guess i would. earlier in my marriage certainly not.

zoe’s last blog post..I love to hate you

kailani Says:

I’m not sure if I’d want to know or not. I can see reasons for both sides. Hmm . . . something to think about.

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