October 8th, 2008

I have a lot of young women come to me with romantic situations that they want some advice on.

While they may be prone to obsessing and chewing their hearts into bloody little bits over a certain unresponsive someone, I try to give them some perspective.

So I switch from the heart to the feet. Feet are important. Ask a waiter if you don’t believe me. A waiter with aching feet is a cranky waiter.

I tell them that dating is like trying on shoes. Those stilettos that are drop dead gorgeous? A world of pain awaits you when you walk a mile in those puppies.

Flip flops? Comfortable, but don’t keep you warm in winter.

What you need, young women, is a pair of shoes that are quality, that fit beautifully. Classic styling, in for the long haul. Never goes out of style. In other words, you want a pair of shoes that you are willing to wear for the rest of your life.

Dating is like the shoe shopping process. Don’t be afraid to try them on. And if you get a poor fit? There are plenty more where that came from. One of them is bound to be a good fit for life. Just don’t settle on the first shiny pair you find.

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26 Responses to “Trying on Shoes”

Karen Says:

I have never heard put quite like that but it is very good advice. I’m on my 4th pair of shoes but I’ve been wearing them for 16 years. They are exactly I wanted the first time.

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kailani Says:

Great advice. I husband is like a pair of classic pumps. Not very fancy but will never go out of style.

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ABB Says:

however, unlike a dating situation (and this scenario with modifications can fit either gender) the result of buying shoes isn’t something that you will have for life. Also, when people find someone they think that’s going to last, it sometimes still ends up in a divorce.

Krissa Says:

What a great analogy! I am thrilled to death with the comfy sneakers I landed. But unlike all my other sneakers, (the ones in my closet), he looks better with age! I like to think it’s because of how I’ve taken care of him and not just genetics. ;)

Angella Says:

PERFECT advice. Just perfect.

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teeni Says:

This is definitely good advice. Stumbling.

Linda Says:

Much good advice o wise one.

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Nan Says:

Where WERE you when I was fifteen?

Nan Says:

So… for commentluv, do we just click the box as usual, or has it become more complicated?

witchypoo Says:

testing commentluv as an admin

banquet manager Says:

I work with waiters everyday. It doesn’t take too much for them to get cranky.
So You Want To Be a Banquet Manager

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Jacki Says:

Great advice!

lceel Says:

Absolutely great advice. Being an old shoe, myself, I can speak to veracity of which you speak. And it works for boys, too. Flash and dance may be okay for the moment, but will it last a lifetime?

And what the hell is haloscan and how do I get it to work in blogger? I found a nice 3 column format I want to go to, and I want to do commentluv – but I guess I’m too stupid.

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Paunchiness Says:

My wife would argue that you should have a different pair of shoes for all occasions…So maybe there’s a prefect pair of shoes out there that can fit most situations but be a little rough for others.

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old knudsen Says:

So yer saying sex with shoes is ok then? I’ve been doing it fer years.

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Mnaule Says:

I’m very often cranky……..good shoes or not……hehehehe

warriorwoman Says:

I own loads of shoes, had loads of sex too.
I’m pretty much always cranky at work.

No husband yet.

Jenny Says:

Dammit, I went with comfortable and long-lasting. Today I’d DIE for quick jaunt with super sexy stilettos!

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Marti Says:

You know what? that is a good reference. I am going to start doing that.

Loralee Says:

Shoes, eh? In that case, I guess I have a pair that are like calf high Doc Martin. In for the long haul but so damn complicated and irritating with all the lacing up and down. ;)

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christy c Says:

I like to keep a good pair at home, and maybe some in the gym, in the car, maybe a pair stashed in a bush……

Kelley Says:

My shoes were exotic and exciting and had the promise of riches.

Now they have turned into painfully uncomfortable annoyances.

But new shoes are scary.

Tonya Says:

Shoes and dating, interesting perception. Shoes come with less heartache though. Time to go shopping.

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zoe Says:

huh. i have tried on a lot of shoes. i thought the uh…birkenstocks chose would be a good fit. completely unlike the shoes i normally wear. tuns out birkenstocks are as ugly on the inside as they are on the outside….even the shiny black patent leather ones. wtf?

Talina Says:

Great advice and what woman can’t relate to shoes? Perfect!

Linda Says:

I Love your new banner! FAB darling. One of these days I will get my shite together and figure out how to change all that stuff on my blog. I am so board with the way it looks.

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