December 6th, 2007

How many of us really trust our own perceptions?
Remember being a little kid, having the time of your life
playing outside?

Yo mama: “Put a sweater on. It’s cold outside.”
You: “But, Mom, I’m not cold.”
Yo mama: “Yes you are. Put a sweater on.”
Thought bubble: “I didn’t think I was cold, but
I must be, because Mom said I was.”

or

You: “I hate my sister.”
Yo mama: “Oh, no, dear, you don’t hate your sister, you love her.”
Thought bubble: “I want her dead.” and “Now I’m confused.”

still another

You: “Mama, a fairy lives in our garden. She is beautiful
and kind, and is my friend.”
Yo mama: “Oh, sweetheart, that’s impossible. It was only
your imagination.”
Thought bubble: “My imagination is worthless and not to be
trusted.”

just one more

You: “Mama, I dreamed that Grandma was alive again.
I was so happy.”
You mama: “Oh, darling, it was only a dream. It wasn’t real”
Thought bubble: “My dreams are irrelevant.”

The upshot of these little scenarios is that we grow up to
mistrust our own perceptions. We do this because our perceptions
are invalidated by the very people we look up to most.
They do this lovingly, but out of ignorance.
We totally buy into it, because they were Gods in our world.

When we trust our perceptions, we welcome our intuitions and
hunches as the gifts they really are.
We go to a different coffee shop “just because” and meet
someone we haven’t seen in ages, someone that gladdens our
hearts, or that we need to have in our life again.
We get the urge to take a different route to work, and discover
later that there was a huge accident on our regular route
that morning. Good thing we weren’t late for that important
meeting!

So, try to let go of the old programming. Trust that your urges
won’t lead you to rack and ruin. In many cases it will keep you safe.

It might also be loads of fun.

My point is that we all have hunches and urges. Few of us act on them because we dismiss them out of hand. We don’t trust what we cannot see.

A lot of people wonder how I do my thing. The truth is, once I am in an altered state, I get all kinds of information that I trust. The difference between myself and many others is that I am confident enough of my information to promptly pass it on to the client.

So, the next time your child says something like “I hate my sister” , do them a huge favour and mirror back to them: “You are angry with your sister.”

This is the greatest gift that you can give to your child’s sense of self. That they can trust their own perceptions.

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13 Responses to “Put a sweater on, your mother’s cold”

Andy Bailey Says:

I agree, some of the best and biggest decisions in my life were based on nothing more than a ‘gut’ feeling.

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Just Beachy Says:

I agree as well.

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iamthediva Says:

this is a great post, and sage advice. thank you

iamthediva Says:

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nan Says:

Yes! My gut never leads me wrong, and my kids have plenty of respect for their “feelings” too. Once you start to follow and trust your intuition, you will never go back. It would be like putting a blindfold on!

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JennB Says:

Trusting your intuition is something we’re all taught to ignore, and it’s refreshing and empowering to put your faith back into yourself, your “gut” instinct, and do what feels right. I think it’s great to encourage our children and ourselves to not ignore that little sendling or dream or fairy encounter.

josey Says:

i love this post, witchyp :) if i may, i’d like to share a story!!

once in college my roomy (mary) and i went out on the coldest day of the winter, when everyone was advised to stay in. we ran our errand and when we got back to her car it wouldnt start. we tried for about 10 minutes and the whole time i had this horrible sick feeling. it was strange! i told her something wasnt right, and we should call someone to come get us. this was a big deal, cause not many people were on campus…and the ones that were did NOT want to get out! she looked at me with a freakish look in her eyes and said i looked really sick! she agreed to leave the car. we arranged with the store to leave it there for the night.

we got home, and several hours later, mary’s dad called. he said the police called him saying his car had been stolen and burned in a parking lot! he was freaking out. well, it didnt get stolen–the car was in his name but mary was driving it, so the police misunderstood. however, what had happened is the car spontaneously caught fire (about 30 minutes after we left–and according to a witness, the hood blew off) and burned to the tires–and was stuck to the parking lot for a few weeks because of the cold temps (and fire trucks!)!

i know that was a long story, and i hope you dont mind. ;) i didnt “see” what was going to happen, but i knew something wasnt right. whenever i have a “gut” feeling now, i ALWAYS go with it!! and your post just reinforced that!

Jenny Says:

I’ve spent years saying “OH, I knew that was going to happen. Why didn’t I listen to my guy?” It wasn’t until I was in my 30s and read some book about building/strengthening your intuition that I actually started to do just that. Now I try really hard to instill this in my own kids. If my daughter is shy or whispers “Can we go? I don’t like that man.” I never brush her off. We go. She needs to learn early on that her intuition will never lead her astray.
Great post!

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witchypoo sez: It makes me happy to know that you are nurturing and honouring your child’s sense of self. I just got your comment about listening to your gut, but I thought “your guy” might be a reference to one of your guides. I have a load of them, and my go-to guy is the Archangel Michael. That’s a story for another day, though.

Deb on the Rocks Says:

Great advice. When you listen, you’ll get some great stuff & you’ll get to see more and more of your ID–which is not that scary after you melt some of that other gift from your mommy: repression. Yeah grownupness!

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Jenny Says:

Listen to my GUT…that’s what I meant. Darn it’s hard blogging when I’ve got a toddler on one boob and a screaming, crying princess trying to kill the cat.

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enforcer Says:

OMG what a great post witchypoo and so seriously true. I can so remember thinking those thoughts when I was a kid and I hope I don’t do that to mine. I dont think I do….

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kim Says:

hi! *waves * *smiles* too

cheers kim

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Marie Says:

Very good advice. My parents never stifled me in any of those ways, I ende up stifling myself instead. So when my son says he wants to hit his sister I just remind him she’s the only sister he has. And when they pretend to be something or think they see something, I go along with it. I know from experience not everything is imagination, and that even if it is, it should be encouraged.

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